Foreplay is an important feature in the game we like to call sex. While men feel like they might be ready to go the moment their penis is hard, women need a little more buttering up to get the juices flowing. While a penis literally just has to be erect, the vagina is like a delicate flower. It is self-lubricating but it needs a little stimulation to get there, while the muscles relax and it also opens more to allow a penis to enter more smoothly.
This is where fingering comes in. I know, we all hate the term, it sounds a so crude and such as thing that is left behind in the park to be discussed by 12 year old boys who haven’t really ever touched a girl. However, whatever we want to call it, it happens and it is a great way to excite your woman…if you do it right. As many women will tell you, this isn’t always the case and a great deal of men just fumble around for a while before shoving their cock in. Want to really impress your girl, take note!
- Get your hands vagina-ready
Men’s hands are not always the most slightly. It’s less about appearance and more about feel. If you’ve been working on your car all day and your hands are covered in motor oil, no girl is going to want those grubby mitts shoved into what is quite possibility one of the most delicate human eco-systems. Equally, as such a sensitive area, if your hands are all rough and calloused, it’s going to feel like you are rubbing her insides with sandpaper. Try a little moisturizer every now and again, even if it is just a touch of olive oil. And lastly, and most importantly for getting your hands ready, cut your fingernails. No girl wants to be sliced in the vaginal canal or poked on the cervix by your talons.
- Stop finger-banging
When you jackhammer a vagina with your fingers, although you might have a couple of fingers up there, the rest are literally punching her in the vagina. Think about that for a second, punching her in the vagina. Women’s two most sensitive areas are the clitoris and the G-spot. Since the clitoris is on the outside, so you aren’t aiming for that with this motion, presumably you are attempting to reach the G-spot. It’s not in her womb so stop trying to reach up inside her. It’s two inches from the opening on the roof. Try gently stroking it by curling your fingers toward the opening of the vagina. Maybe even rub it back and forth, but no jackhammering.
- Don’t be scared to lube up
Lubrication isn’t just for putting on your penis. Why not putting a little on your hands? As you are trying to warm her up and stimulate her, the vagina could still be tight at the beginning. By adding lubrication, it is easier than trying to work against it. Equally, many lubes now have added sensations such as tingling. This helps to stimulate the vagina into action while providing her with a little extra pleasure.
- Careful with the clitoris
Bear in mind that some women have very sensitive clitorises, so diving right under the hood can cause her pain. Instead, gently massage on top of the hood first and see how that makes her feel.
